Being a mom has always been on my bucket list. I’ve just always known it was something I was made to do. I felt that I was well-prepared to be a mom after an entire childhood spent around kids. I quickly found that even I was not immune to the changes motherhood brings.
Becoming a mom soon? Here are five fun movie quotes that sum up what changes to expect in your first year of motherhood:
1. “[My] small heart grew three sizes that day.”
Before my pregnancy, I was a pretty even-keeled person. While I experienced all basic human emotions, I took everything in stride. I would even mock my mom for crying at cheesy commercials (sorry, mom!)
Okay, maybe my heart was made of stone.
On the day I gave birth, though, my heart grew just like the Grinch’s. It boi-oinged that heart magnifying device to smithereens.
I was feeling all the feelings that I had felt before, but with so much more intensity! The joy! The fear! The excitement! And the love… oh, the love.
I am still amazed at how deep my capacity is to feel now, about everything. I can attribute a lot of that to postpartum hormones, of course. But my capacity to feel deepened immensely after having my daughter.
Oh, shoot, another Hallmark commercial. Pass the tissues!
2. “It’s like I have ESPN or something…”
Mother’s intuition is real, yo.
No, I don’t have any evidence-based research to back up that statement.
As a mother, you just know when something is wrong with your child. Listen to your gut. I remember so many times in my first year of being a mom that I had a nagging gut feeling about something. I still regret the times I ignored it and listened to others’ advice over my intuition.
Because after all was said and done, guess who was right all along? That’s right – my gut!
You know your child. Trust this over everything else. Listen to your gut. There is no greater piece of advice I can give to new parents.
3. “Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn.”
You think it is weird that I sleep in the same bed as my child?
That I’m heartless because I don’t always help my child as soon as she’s struggling?
You think I’m overreacting by changing my whole diet to cure my daughter’s diaper rash?
Cool. Good to know.
You’re welcome to share your opinions with me, but, really, I don’t give a hoot what you think about how I parent.
I parent for my child, not for anyone else. I am doing what I believe is the best, based on the information that is currently available to me. I’m always trying to learn more.
So please, childless man at dinner, tell me more about how you think extended breastfeeding is unnatural. Let’s compare scientific studies on long-term intellectual, emotional and physical health outcomes over dessert.
You can tell me all day long about how you think a parenting choice I’m making is the wrong one. But the only person I’m planning on answering to is my child.
4. “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.”
When my daughter was 5 weeks old, we went to a local mommy meet-up. There were babies there who were about a year old, and who were walking and talking. My daughter was on me, asleep in a sling, and I remember thinking, “She is never going to be that big.”
And BOOM. One year later and here we are. She is the big kid now.
All those clichés you hear about how quickly time moves are SO.TRUE. I had heard them all, and I believed them all.
I knew our first year together would fly by, so I savored every moment of that year. Even the poopy, vomity, shrieky, terrible moments. I loved every single dang second of it. And now I have a walking, talking, goofy one-year-old. And I’m so scared about how quickly the rest of our time together will pass.
5. “Life is a box of chocolates, Forrest. You never know what you’re gonna get.”
I care more about everything now. Like, what will our world be like when my daughter is 30?
When I think about the rate at which the world is moving and how fast everything is changing, it terrifies me.
I have no idea what my daughter’s life will be like when she is 30. Unfortunately, there is no way that anyone can know what’s to come in our rapidly changing world. The number of things that are out of my control in her life are overwhelming. All I can do is try focus on the things I can control and do what I can to make our world a better place for her and her children.